As a mother, I often take myself too seriously because I want to make sure that my son eats properly, goes to bed on time, doesn’t break any of our belongings and doesn’t break anything on himself when he is jumping off various pieces of furniture. Being a mom is hard and stressful, and if we aren’t careful, we can get lost in the frustration of it all.
I know for me, it is hard for me to let loose and just enjoy a moment, so I’ve started making a conscious effort to see the world through my son’s eyes, even if it is just for a little bit here and there. It is enlightening and enjoyable. Here are five instances where I have learned just to stop being so wound up and just to be with my son.
Last weekend my son was outside and all of a sudden he said, “Mommy, Let’s go find the pirates and get the treasure.” Normally, my son is perfectly happy going off and playing by himself, but on this day he asked me along on his adventure. I decided not to turn him down and just be part of it. So, I ran inside, filled one of his tin lunchboxes with “treasure” and we grabbed some swords, a.k.a sticks, and off we went to fight the pirates, a.k.a trees. It was so fun having him point to something and say “watch out for the sharks!” or “A pirate’s behind you!” and being a part of his world for a while. I seldom let myself use my imagination for fun anymore. I’m glad he invited me along.
Dancing like no one is watching:
As an adult, dancing is relegated for when you attend an event, like a wedding, work party, or anniversary party. Then dancing is somewhat reserved, slow dances or group dances (hustle, cupid shuffle, etc.), though you’re aware that others are watching you, so you keep it relatively calm and dignified. When I dance around with my son, there are no steps. It is stomping, twirling, waving around and shaking your booty without abandon. Talk about a calorie burner….
Anyway, if someone were to take video of our dancing, they would probably think I need medical attention. What can I say, it was incredible to see how much fun my little man was having and to be a part of it is even better.
Playing in the pool:
I hardly ever went to the pool simply because I just never made time for it. When I did go, my time was mainly spent sunbathing in a deck chair, or hanging out on the side of the pool chatting with friends.
This summer, I made sure to take my son to the neighborhood pool because he loves being in the water. Now that he is old enough, we decided to move him from the baby pool over to the big pool (with a floatie, of course) and I’ve learned how much I used to love being in a pool.
We spent hours splashing, jumping off the edge and giggling. It was so much fun and my son, and I sleep much better on those nights after going to the pool.
Going on the swings:
As an adult, I can’t say I’ve found myself on a playground often, let alone on a swing. When my husband and I take my son to the playground, he always wants to go on the swings. He loves them. Once he is going at a good pace, he insists that I sit down on the swing next to him and swing too.
I, having not been on a swing in years, was a little hesitant, but once I got going, I loved it. Going high then leaning back so you can only see the sky. It feels like flying! There is a freedom that you feel when you are going that fast and that high and it was most definitely not my last time on a swing.
Finding the beauty in the world around you:
It’s weird when you become an adult and lose sight of whats in front of you, but my son is still discovering the world around him. He will get so excited and say things like, “Mommy, look at all the pretty clouds!” or see a butterfly and say “Oh, he’s so cute!” It made me realize how much I don’t look around anymore. However, I have since learned that when I stop and take a minute to look at the world around me, I am taken out of my stress filled head, and I take a deep breath, and it makes me calmer at that moment then I might be all day.