Category: Goals

5 Times To Be a Kid With Your Kid

5 Times To Be a Kid With Your Kid

As a mother, I often take myself too seriously because I want to make sure that my son eats properly, goes to bed on time, doesn’t break any of our belongings and doesn’t break anything on himself when he is jumping off various pieces of furniture. Being a mom is hard and stressful, and if we aren’t careful, we can get lost in the frustration of it all.

I know for me, it is hard for me to let loose and just enjoy a moment, so I’ve started making a conscious effort to see the world through my son’s eyes, even if it is just for a little bit here and there. It is enlightening and enjoyable. Here are five instances where I have learned just to stop being so wound up and just to be with my son.

Fighting Pirates:

Last weekend my son was outside and all of a sudden he said, “Mommy, Let’s go find the pirates and get the treasure.” Normally, my son is perfectly happy going off and playing by himself, but on this day he asked me along on his adventure. I decided not to turn him down and just be part of it. So, I ran inside, filled one of his tin lunchboxes with “treasure” and we grabbed some swords, a.k.a sticks, and off we went to fight the pirates, a.k.a trees. It was so fun having him point to something and say “watch out for the sharks!” or “A pirate’s behind you!” and being a part of his world for a while. I seldom let myself use my imagination for fun anymore. I’m glad he invited me along.

Dancing like no one is watching:

As an adult, dancing is relegated for when you attend an event, like a wedding, work party, or anniversary party. Then dancing is somewhat reserved, slow dances or group dances (hustle, cupid shuffle, etc.), though you’re aware that others are watching you, so you keep it relatively calm and dignified. When I dance around with my son, there are no steps. It is stomping, twirling, waving around and shaking your booty without abandon. Talk about a calorie burner….

Anyway, if someone were to take video of our dancing, they would probably think I need medical attention. What can I say, it was incredible to see how much fun my little man was having and to be a part of it is even better.

Playing in the pool:

I hardly ever went to the pool simply because I just never made time for it. When I did go, my time was mainly spent sunbathing in a deck chair, or hanging out on the side of the pool chatting with friends.

This summer, I made sure to take my son to the neighborhood pool because he loves being in the water. Now that he is old enough, we decided to move him from the baby pool over to the big pool (with a floatie, of course) and I’ve learned how much I used to love being in a pool.

We spent hours splashing, jumping off the edge and giggling. It was so much fun and my son, and I sleep much better on those nights after going to the pool.

Going on the swings:

As an adult, I can’t say I’ve found myself on a playground often, let alone on a swing. When my husband and I take my son to the playground, he always wants to go on the swings. He loves them. Once he is going at a good pace, he insists that I sit down on the swing next to him and swing too.

I, having not been on a swing in years, was a little hesitant, but once I got going, I loved it. Going high then leaning back so you can only see the sky. It feels like flying! There is a freedom that you feel when you are going that fast and that high and it was most definitely not my last time on a swing.

Finding the beauty in the world around you:

It’s weird when you become an adult and lose sight of whats in front of you, but my son is still discovering the world around him. He will get so excited and say things like, “Mommy, look at all the pretty clouds!” or see a butterfly and say “Oh, he’s so cute!” It made me realize how much I don’t look around anymore. However, I have since learned that when I stop and take a minute to look at the world around me, I am taken out of my stress filled head, and I take a deep breath, and it makes me calmer at that moment then I might be all day.

It’s weird to say, but as much as being a mom stresses me out, when I let go and just be with my child, I feel the freest. It’s strange, but it’s true.

What are some activities you have enjoyed with you kids, that gave you a chance to be a kid yourself?

5 Reasons Your Child Should Set Goals

5 Reasons Your Child Should Set Goals

Children are like sponges.  This is why you should show them the benefits of goal setting at a young age.  There are many benefits to learning how to make a list of goals and working towards them.

It gives them direction.

By having your child choose which goal they want to work towards, they are choosing what they want to work on.  This is important.  Letting your child choose, instead of somebody telling them what to choose, will show what your child has a passion in at the moment.

As the parent, you can suggest goals, but keep your child wants/needs in mind.  Don’t tell them a goal, offer up ideas, and let your child grow from there.

Say things like,

“I know you have started a new book, did you want to make finishing it by tonight, your goal?”

“I know you have been working really hard on trying to learn to ride your bike, did you want to give yourself a certain time frame in which to learn it?”

This gives your child the idea of what a goal looks like and they can choose if they want that to be their goal.

You can learn a lot about your child.

By asking what they want to achieve or work on, you are learning a lot about your child.  It can show you if they choose to shoot for the moon, or wish to perfect the small things.  Either way, your child is thinking about what they would like to accomplish and its good for you, as a parent, to see that.

It builds determination.

When your child sets a goal for themselves, they are generally wanting a certain outcome.  It is amazing to see how a young mind will go about trying to achieve the goal they have set.  It could teach you a couple things about how to go about achieving goals you have set in your life as well.

Also, since they are setting the goals themselves, they may be more determined to achieve it because it is what they came up with.

They learn humility.

Essentially, they may not accomplish every goal they have set for themselves.  They may become frustrated, but since goal setting is usually a competition with yourself, it’s a different loss than losing against another person.

Let your child know that, while they didn’t achieve their goal, they worked hard towards it.  Point out how far they have come and that they are a lot closer than they were when they started and they didn’t achieve it yet, they may just need more time to achieve it.

They learn what they can accomplish.

Once they set their goals and work towards them, they can see what they can accomplish.  Even if they don’t meet their goal, they can still see how much progress they have made.  Which can make them feel really good about themselves and want to set higher and more long term goals.

You child may look to you for guidance. It is important that you are encouraging and understanding. No goal is too big or small for them right now. You just want them to start working towards something and feeling the pride in themselves for what they accomplish.

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